27 Oct How to Consider Yourself a Successful Business Owner When You Feel Like a Failure
One of the hardest things about running a business is acting as if you are successful while you wait to be successful. It’s the entry fee to entrepreneurship, no matter where you start or who you are, we all have to start somewhere.
During that time, you have two options. You can beat yourself up every single day for not being at the finish line yet, or you can enjoy every day in your business and see this as a beautiful journey.
To do that you need to understand what success means to you and decide how to keep that near and dear to your heart during the hardest parts of your race.
What defines business success?
It can be a hard question to answer, and one that most definitely doesn’t have a blanket, one-size-fits-all type answer. Depending on who you ask, business success will be defined differently. Some view success as a life-long business, others view it as being free from 9 to 5 and able to pay their bills comfortably, while others define success as making lots of money.
The beautiful part of each of those different scenarios? They are all right in their own way. Think about the last time that you felt successful in something that you did. Was it based on your attitude, your surroundings, your career, or something entirely different?
Feeling successful at something is a feeling that we all want. Success isn’t something that we have to get from others. It’s actually something that we can consider ourselves to be.
How to Consider Yourself a Success When You Feel Like a Failure
1 – Dig deep and understand how you define success.
What makes you happy, makes you smile, drives you to be better than you were the day before? Answering those questions will help lead you on the path to your own success and stop yourself from self-sabotaging.
COACHING TIP: For example, I have some clients who want to make millions of dollars and have all the nice things. That’s what drives them. I have some that want to leave something behind for their kids, and some who want to be truly free… doing what they want when they want. What you may feel is important, others may not. And that’s okay. Own your definition and celebrate every milestone.
2 – Be your biggest fan and cheer loud for yourself.
Why not choose to believe that anything you do, you will do well? Start each day by looking at yourself in the mirror and telling yourself that today is going to be a great day. If you think it will be great, then it can be great. And if your day ends in a positive way, then that day, and you, are a success.
COACHING TIP: If you struggle with negative thoughts, or you aren’t sure how to incorporate positive thoughts into your day to day, try reciting success affirmations. Affirmations are helpful because they reprogram your mind for success. If you are interested, I have a 52-week affirmation journal HERE or you can follow me on TikTok HERE or Instagram HERE for daily affirmations.
3 – Compare yourself only to yourself, and no one else.
Don’t look for outside validation in you and your everyday life. If you spend your days waiting for others to acknowledge you and all your success stories, you may find that you are going to be waiting for a very long time. The only person that you should compare yourself to, is yourself. You aren’t like any other entrepreneur, you aren’t the same as any other person, and trying to compare yourself to anyone else can be quite frustrating, to say the least. Start each day trying hard to be better than you were the day before. If you can accomplish that, then you’ve succeeded.
COACHING TIP: The most powerful way to incorporate this advice is to mute all your competitors on social media for 3-days and focus on competing against yourself. Ask yourself, what did I do yesterday? What is one thing I can do today to beat my past self? Keep doing this for 30-days and you’ll establish a habit of competing against yourself. When you start running your own race… no one can stop you.
4 – Give every day 100% of your effort, and let that be okay.
If you do your best each and every day, there’s nothing more that you could have done. Doing your best is as successful as anyone can be. Think of all the times that you tried, and possibly failed, but still knew that what you did was totally worth it. That is the true definition of success. You might try, and you might fail, but you were able to give it your all and give it your very best.
COACHING TIP: This won’t work if you have a million things to do and are relying on to-do lists. Instead, plan your big goals, develop action plans, and create a schedule where you have 2 to 3 big things on your to-do list every day. This way, giving 100% effort isn’t some crazy hustle schedule that leaves you burnt out, but more of a strategic process to accomplish your biggest, juiciest goals.
5 – See the big picture in the goals of your life, and make sure it’s exciting.
Being successful doesn’t happen overnight. If you want to view yourself as a success, visualize how you are going to get there. Think long-term and big picture when setting up your path to success. Success has no limits to how many times you can consider yourself one, so why not create multiple goals and steps to be successful more times than not?
Give yourself goals to be a success multiple times throughout your day, week, and month! Who says that you have to limit the number of successes you can have?
COACHING TIP: The biggest way to fail at this tip, is to have boring goals. When you set your goals make sure they are big and sexy and exciting. You want to jump out of bed excited about your marketing, operations, and daily to-do list.
Being successful is in the eye of the beholder. While you may find that you consider yourself a success more times than not, other people may consider themselves successful for many other different reasons. Remember, to each their own when talking about success.
If you feel successful, think you are successful, and are happy knowing that you did your best to be successful, then you’ve done a wonderful job in categorizing yourself as a success. You hold the key to being a success.
You hold the power to decide if you are successful or not, and you have the ability to make every day be the success that you are looking for. Success comes from within, so let it shine through!
If you are looking to take your success to the next level, it may be time to hire a success and productivity coach.
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