16 Oct 6 Common Ways Women Entrepreneurs Self-Sabotage Their Success + How To Stop
Everyone woman entrepreneur has self-sabotaged their success in one way or another. I know I’ve been there.
It’s a strange feeling to know that you ruined the very thing you were trying so hard to accomplish. As a certified success and productivity coach, I’ve spent years dissecting human behavior. As a result, I’ve been able pinpointed the one singular cause of self-sabotage:
As humans, most of us are well-practiced in the art of avoiding discomfort, and without a little of it, there can be no progress. This inability to cope with discomfort is the most common way we sabotage our success.
It can be the discomfort of failing, succeeding, or having to perform tasks that are uncomfortable. The unease of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. The discomfort of feeling like a fraud, aka imposter syndrome.
However, the truth is that discomfort is a good thing. It means you are on the right track. It means you are pushing the limits of what you are capable of.
A few years ago, I really believed the solution to self-sabotage was simple: get comfortable with discomfort.
Before you say yes, know that discomfort takes on many forms.
Let’s break down all the ways self-sabotage can rear its ugly head, and how you can stop it from happening.
The tasks that need to be done in order to be successful are typically less appealing than watching TV, surfing the internet, or spending time with friends. We’re experts at distracting ourselves, and the urge to seek out distractions increases with the unpleasantness of the task.
Solution: Allow yourself to have distractions, but control when, and how long, you engage in them. You might give yourself 30 minutes of distraction time after three hours of work. Or, you might limit distractions to the evening after your work is done for the day.
Distractions are one way of procrastinating, but there are countless ways to procrastinate. Trust me, I’ve tried the all. The general theme is that you’re doing something other than what you should be doing.
Solution: Be clear on what needs to be done and why.
- Focus on just getting started, which is often the most challenging part of working.
- Use a timer and see how much you can accomplish in 30 minutes.
Indecisiveness is a success killer. When you can’t make up your mind, progress comes to a stop. If you wait until you have all the wisdom and information necessary to make the perfect choice, you’ll be waiting for a long time. You have to pull the trigger and move forward.
Solution: Be clear on what needs to be done to accomplish your objective.
Give yourself a time limit. You might give yourself 3 days to make a decision. Then just decide and do your best without regret.
4. Negative thoughts.
For many people, the closer they get to success, the more negative thoughts they experience.
- Ignore the random noise of your mind. You don’t have to engage with your random thoughts. You can choose to ignore them.
- Retrain to your thoughts by using positive affirmations and meditation. You can control your mind.
Solution: Take control of your mind and think thoughts that are useful to you. Cheer yourself on rather than criticize your actions.
5. Focus on low-priority tasks.
We like to work on our projects but avoid the most important tasks. The most important tasks are often the least enjoyable, so we avoid them. We tackle the less important tasks because it allows us to feel like we’re still making progress.
Solution: Have a list of tasks to do each day ordered from most important to least. Start at the top of your list and work your way down.
This is the ultimate way to sabotage your success. You can’t achieve anything if you quit before you’re successful. Many people have a habit of quitting right before achieving success.
Solution: Develop the habit of finishing what you start. Avoid caving into the fear that crops up when you’re about to find out if you were successful or not. Remember that you can always try again, regardless of the outcome.
The person responsible for your successes and failures is staring at you in the mirror each day, but sometimes it’s hard to get out of your own head.
- Are you ready to get out of your own way and allow abundance to flow with greater joy and ease?
- Are you ready to find and follow your OWN unique and personal path to joy and success on YOUR terms?
- Are you ready to experience more positive and rewarding interactions with your customers, partners, contractors, and employees?
If you answered YES to one or more of those questions, I invite you to schedule a free coaching interview call with me here: calendly.com/tierrawilson/30-minute-coaching-call